I felt in a mood for StumblingUpon when I got home Monday night. Here’s a few things I liked:
Incredible Storms…all I can say is Wow!
This week’s Submissive Journal Prompts are interesting, but most of the question either don’t really apply to me or they didn’t draw me into any sort of internal conversation I felt like writing about, so I just shared them, thinking someone might be in a mood to answer them here, even if I didn’t.
- Do you feel there is a learning curve in slavery? Do you feel you have to unlearn certain things that society has taught you?
- “There’s only one thing greater than my fear- that is my love. My love will always conquer my fear- but it can’t do it immediately. It needs the full force of my love to do it and it takes days for that to emerge out of its dark hiding places.” -John Middleton Murry
I think that its fairly obvious to anyone who reads here regularly that I often have to talk myself through my fears about loving and that it takes time…weeks sometimes to talk myself down out of the fear and to let the love shine brightly and cast the fear out of me. When I find that bravery in myself, I am always so pleased at myself and I also notice that joy thrives in me when I’m in a state of love. *smiles*
- What do you consider ’slutty’ behavior? Are you encouraged to act slutty? How does slutty behavior (either by yourself or others) make you feel?
I was taught that slutty behavior was encouraging men to seek me when they should be focused on their own partner instead of me. I was also taught that women who dress in very revealing ways or pose their 
bodies in outrageously suggestive ways were slutty. I grew up in a time when a woman who took initiative about sex or who behaved avid for carnal pleasure was a slut and I don’t know what word was worse than that, but it definitely applied to any woman who talked about how badly they wanted to get laid. Definitely a woman who let herself be used for the pleasure of a man was a slut.
Slutty is something that’s become a social norm in today’s society in many ways…at least in this country. Does that make me a slut that I’ve done every one of those things on the list? I guess so. But I don’t think that’s an indication of my morals either.
How does slutty behavior make me feel? The only thing I feel ashamed of is hurting another woman. The rest is an expression of my desire for someone I love and an enjoyment of my own body and the pleasure it gives me and my partner. Its not an indication of my modesty either. Or of promiscuity. Not even the fact that I am polyamorous indicates promiscuity; which are frequently associated with the whole idea of slutty behavior. I am quite faithful if I offer that faithfulness to someone. That faithfulness is so deep in me that I don’t even look if I’ve given my word. I don’t flirt outside a platonic friendship either. Doing so could instill doubt and I never want that doubt to settle into the heart of anyone I love. I don’t want them to hurt.
I like faithfulness. I like the safety of it. I enjoy having my sexual freedom, but I actually find it more satisfying to have a deeper relationship that springs out of focus upon one another with no other distractions. It feels good to me to have that focus intensify and deepen things. It isn’t necessary for me to love or trust, but for submission…? I relinquish too much control to feel safe without a certain measure of monogamy.
Is it slutty that I have sex with more than one man? In many people’s minds it is. I don’t really care if it is.
My personal viewpoint of the term is such that faithfulness would be an oxymoron…so I hardly think its applies to me. And though I can be and have been outrageous at times, doing very immodest things in the pursuit of my Dominant’s pleasure, or my own, I do not behave as anything other than a lady outside those rare moments when I’m not likely to get caught.
Even if it does apply to me…I have the right to enjoy sex. I make no apology for that.
- Have you attended a munch group? What were your impressions? Have you been back? Why or why not?
Yup. I go to munches close by my home as frequently as I can. In general, I think they are a good place to make some new friends, but its really good to be cautious. There’s alot of pretenders out there. Alot of people with really inappropriate behavior. If you can deal with weeding, you’ll find some gems.
- How does your body image impact your sexual identity?
It doesn’t. I am a woman, a submissive, very sensual…a whole lot of fun as a lover and as a companion. My body image has little to do with that. My taste in men has very little to do with body image too. I love a ruggedly handsome man…but I am just as hot for a man who could be easily called plain or average. Its all about the personality and the synergy for me….well that and his joy toy. *winks*
Hey, remember I was talking the other day on my Favorites post about how I hadn’t come anywhere near the number of hits a day that Bonny sent my way last October? Well yesterday, there were 543 hits here. *grins* That was a fun surprise to see when I checked on comments this evening when I got home from dinner with my son. Coulda fallen out of my chair. *smiles* And by the way, I discovered this incredibly yummy restaurant last night. I had tempura fiddlehead greens salad with a coconut milk and peanut dressing. Oh baby…you’ve no idea how yummy that was!! *licks lips…*
Just an aside…
I am just sooo in the mood for a nice long flogging. Haven’t had one of those in quite some time. *sighs…*
I’m Wondering…
What are you just sooo in the mood for?
I’m Wondering…
Is there a person or an experience that you fantasize about as a guilty pleasure?
I wish…
To make some good memories today with my son.
June 5, 2008 at 10:21 am
Shannee, good morning,
lovely wolves, the clouds are amazing, the dog surprised indeed, the facts interesting, the storms, maybe a faulty link.
If that is the definition of slut, then Mel was always a slut for me, as indeed you are for those you love.
Perhaps the girl who tried to seduce me at twelve. would be a guilty pleasure, if I could have got it up.
I’d happily flog were you in reach.
I wish I was having the old age that I dreamt of twenty years ago.
I hope that your wish comes true.
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.
Good morning Paul!! *smiles* Its an overcast day today. Just a tad cool…but I hear Saturday is supposed to be the warmest yet. Upper 80’s. Finally. I’m really looking forward to that. It should be a lovely day for my youngest son’s graduation.
I got that storm link to work…perhaps it was the server’s error, but it seems to be working now. Its a cool link. I hope you’ll check it out and I’m glad you liked the rest. I thought of you as the list got completed.
Don’t you always get a chuckle out of people who think Huskies and Malmutes are wolves and think wolves must be some sort of hybrid? LOL!
I think that if a person is in love and lust with their partner, slutty comes natural. *grins*
Oooh! A flogging…! How many lashes would I get? *grins and winks* Just so you know…if I were in reach, I’d not hesitate to let you? *grins some more*
What’s the old age you dreamt of I wonder?
So far, the wish I had is coming true…a sweet evening and a nice day so far. ((hugs)) Good to hear from you dear friend.
June 5, 2008 at 10:54 am
I’m sooo in the mood for some outdoor sex but the weather won’t cooperate. If you wanna know the truth, You’re my guilty pleasure fantasy. If you don’t wanna know the truth then… umm… I guess I shouldn’t have said that….
I’m wishing for darling to find the job of his dreams, but that wish is a dangerous one, cause that could mean moving far away.
Aw…I’m deeply flattered to be your guilty pleasure fantasy. ((hugs)) Seriously I am. *smiles* You’ve made my day.
Outdoor sex here requires mosquito netting for sure and just getting there on a day when its not pretty windy is a matter of dodging the clouds of little flying vampires this year..and that’s if you can dodge the ticks. Its a tough year for being outdoors in Maine because the black flies and ticks are so bad this year. I’m looking forward to August when it will be a easier to be outside…and in the mean time I cherish the windy days so that I can be outside comfortably.
Usually, sex outside is a top priority, but this year? Maybe later or maybe south. LOL!
I hope he gets his dream job too…and I hope that includes you not being far apart. Blessings comfy!!
June 5, 2008 at 11:32 am
I’m very much in the mood for a nice long flogging too…not necessarily for the pain but for that wonderful thuddy feeling….
I try to not feel guilty about any of my fantasies…. *wink*
I wish for life to calm down long enough for me to get my feet under me again….
Mmmm…thuddy…that is wonderful for sure. My husband will give me a flogging if I ask for one, but its not what springs to mind when he’s doing what he wants. I’ll have to ask for it, if I’m gonna get one. I rather miss that about M. He liked using a flog on me and did it without being asked. I don’t mind asking for things I want as a submissive…but it sure puts a whole other spin on things when I don’t have to ask at all for the things I really love and get cravings for.
I have always thought that fantasies were harmless fun…*smiles*
I wish for you to get some peace too dear sister mine…May it be so…
June 5, 2008 at 11:34 am
Oh, and don’t come here for sex. I got my first joy of removing a tick from my little girl a week ago….
We always have ticks here. Perfectly normal…but they exist at plague levels right now. LOL! When winter brings alot of snow, a warm spring and alot of water, we get a huge number of plague bugs as I like to call them. Its not a bad thing…there’s alot of birds eating really well this spring and summer…but it makes an uncomfortable time to be outside if you live in Maine, because it just really doesn’t matter how much bug dope you put in, they are still going to get you. There’s just to many of them. You just have to wait out their life spans and then the outdoors will be the simple joy it usually is.
Tick checks on kids is just a daily duty around here…even in the easy years. Gotta do it. It is one of the ‘ew!’ jobs though isn’t it?
June 5, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Shannee, I’ve seen the storms they are amazing.
I am dismayed that many of us who live in places where wolves thrived are so ill informed.
Yeah…thought you’d enjoy those. I’m glad you checked back. There’s a guy that lives in Port Clyde here in Maine. He’s made a deck of cards on the subject of clouds. Each one is all full of lovely shape and energy…Just thought of it and to mention it.
Most people won’t watch anything on tv that has to do with nature or even with how their food is made. Its a tragic event, because if most people knew about that stuff, we’d all be eating organic…and I guess if people won’t look, they won’t learn. *rolls eyes* They are magnificent creatures…very misunderstood too.
June 5, 2008 at 4:22 pm
1) I’m in the mood for ice cream!
2) Oooh yes
3) Peace – for the world and maybe a bit for me
Would it be really naive and embarrassing if I were to ask what a munch group is?
Slightly pinkly yours,
Livvy xxx
Livvy! How nice to hear from you. *smiles* ((hugs)) those are lovely contributions to the W&W! Thank you. As for the peace…may it be so.
Its not at all silly that you didn’t know what that is. I’m sorry. I really should have explained the term when I wrote the post. Its an American nickname for a social for folks who like kinky play. They wear normal street clothes and meet in a pub for some dinner or happy hour and just meet folks of like mind. Conversation is kept vanilla in hearing of other patrons and staff and its a safe sane way to meet people from online at places like alt.com. I guess they are called munches because that’s what people do, munch on some snacks or some dinner and chat. Frequently, there’s after parties with these socials that are invitation only. They call those dungeon parties. Play doesn’t turn into an orgy. At least not at the ones I attend, nor is there public sex. Its bdsm play and discussion.
I’m sure they have such get togethers in Great Britain, but they likely have another name for it. *smiles* Blessing Livvy. Say hello again will ya?!
June 5, 2008 at 4:57 pm
Nice links Shannee, the last photo in the cool clouds series was taken right where I live on the Washington/Idaho border a year or so ago…
I think slutty is another word that gets a bad rep because of how people repond to it. How about calling it “adventurous” behavior instead? But I think many women enjoy thinking of themselves, or being called, a slut or slutty. Nothing wrong with that either.
I’m in the mood for someone to tie me down and give me my first bondage experience, so I guess that covers the first two questions. My wish is to find that right someone to do it with…
It must have been nice to see a bit of home online unexpectedly. *smiles* Storms here are just as spectacular, but they do different things than happens out west and we can’t get such spectacular shots because the land is too mountainous to get them from a distance like that. But in their own way, there’s something awesome and beautiful about what we get. It just has to be photographed from within the storm instead of outside it.
I like that word; adventurous. Good word for it. *grins*
I like that bondage experience idea too. Always a craving of mine. I hope you get your wish granted on a right someone soon. So may it be…*smiles*
June 5, 2008 at 5:23 pm
*I am in the mood to get my Birthday spanking from him! Should be occurring soon.
*My guilty pleasure is J. My fantasy experience would be to have him to myself for a week or more.
*I wish my enormous to do list would dwindle down to a more managable size.
And oh yes, a nice long flogging, followed by slowly exploring each others bodies.
Hello Alice! A birthday spanking…*grins* Sounds really fun! I hope your wishes come true soon…((hugs))
June 6, 2008 at 2:31 am
Very interesting post, as always I enjoyed reading your blog.
Thank you Tina. I’m always really pleased when a reader who has been reading awhile, finally feels called to speak up and say hello. Thank you for say hello. Comments are one of the funnest things about blogging. Big blessings and please say hello again! *smiles*
June 6, 2008 at 3:13 am
I have read a number of your entries on this blog (Obeisance was the most recent one) and I must re-iterate the compliments I gave a couple days ago.
Compared to yours, my blog topics feel sterile.
Buddhist philosophy? Mahayana metaphysics and ethics? Heh, the Tantrists were right all along. ;-)
Raymond! Way cool you made it here too. *grins* Thank you for the compliments…and your topics aren’t sterile. Sometimes I could just fall out of my chair laughing. You’ve got great humor…especially when you write from the deep places in yourself.
I think there’s amazing wisdom and beauty in the Tantric Buddhist teachings. So simple. So deep. So endless a journey. I sure hope you’ll stop by again. Its lovely to know you are reading here. ((hugs))