Bed Tango

Fellas, this post is for you mostly. Its about making a dance of shifting positions for intercourse. If your body and the body of your partner are relatively fit and flexible, you’ll be able to stay joined for intercourse while moving from missionary position into doggy position and back to missionary. If you have a belly that tents your pole or she has a belly or bottom that gets in the way of penetration, the angles may not work to maintain penetration as you shift positions, but you’ll still make it graceful and comfortable for you both to change positions by following these directions and you’ll have the advantage of shifting into many positions; likely discovering a few that make the angles of penetration more pleasing to one or both of you as a result.

The directions I’ll give you are what will work for turning the woman always to her right. If you want to go left?….well if I’ve got to explain that, maybe we shouldn’t be having this conversation. *winks* These directions always assume that you are on your knees between her thighs unless I indicate otherwise also. Now, before you ask, a word about penis length with regard to how this works; staying joined is not impossible for a man less than six inches, but it becomes so if there’s any trouble with the angles for penetration because of body size….but remember, this is about making grace for changing positions, not just so that you can keep your cock in her….though if you can accomplish that, she’ll enjoy you for it. The key to this is to move slowly and consciously think about your position, her position and the mechanics of moving her in relationship to your penetration….and ask her to just relax and let your hands guide her. Be specific with her about not jumping up and moving for you, but just to let you slowly guide her toward how you want her laying.

I hope you’ll understand that pausing to enjoy the penetration each time you shift position is a part of the dance. Every position/angle you can accomplish penetration should be savored before moving on to another. This gives her delight of the helmet of your cock finding every advantage it has to caress gspots inside her. It gives any curve to your cock the chance to do the same. It allows the thickness of your cock to find the best angle for a sensation of fullness. It allows you to find shallow angles and deep angles and all of this varies the way you are pleasing your woman. Because it all feels good and you may discover some positions you both adore as a result that you’d never tried before….and she’ll be impressed by your marvelous grace in bed in showing her all your cock can do.

And one other thing… most men don’t think this through, but you change the angle of penetration depending on whether you are leaning over a woman or leaning back on your knees. Discover exactly which way sends her into a dizzying blissful state and use it wisely. Discover how you can use this knowledge to gradually bring her toward shudders that please you both. I must point out that sex is an art and it requires some stamina and body strength…it requires some flexibility. If you want to please a woman, and the angles she likes the most are hard to hold, work out those muscles to increase your ability to hold those angles for her.

And ladies? I know you are reading too…*smiles* The same goes for you. If he loves you on top and that’s hard for you to find stamina in, then you should be working out those sex muscles too. Like any other physical activity, it requires some effort and that means you need to be in shape for it. Doesn’t mean you have to be all skinny and hard bodied for each other…but those muscles you need to bring pleasure should be worked out enough to accomplish some wonderful orgasms in your partner. And I do say ’should’ consciously. I say it because its about love. If you love someone, you try to stay healthy and strong for them…yes? If you love someone, you want your intimate time together to be as wonderful as possible. It doesn’t mean you have to become a circus performer, but some basic stamina is a part of the requirement for a wonderful bed tango.

So…back to the directions. Let’s start with the missionary position; she’s on her back, legs and arms open to you and you are kneeling near the cleft of her legs for penetration, as I reminded you before. The next shift to the right would mean she would be laying on her side and that requires that you first move your left knee to the left of her right thigh. Once you’ve done that, lift her left leg up toward your left shoulder as high as her muscles will comfortably accommodate and guide her into rolling a bit for you with your hand on her left hip. You should remain straddling her right leg awhile and enjoy the penetration.

When you want to change the angle of penetration a little, shift her leg toward your right shoulder. She’ll shift just a little bit to accommodate you.

When you want to turn her again, you drop her leg toward your left hip and gently guide her hips with your hand until she is on her belly for you…and then you can adjust your knees as you wish. If you want her to feel vulnerable and open, spread her legs wide for you and kneel between them. If you want her up on her knees for you, then close her legs, using your knees and hands to guide her gently and gracefully into the right position. Its easier for you to stay inside her if you reset your leg position. That means most of your weight should be on one knee placed near her knees and the other foot is planted near her waist, in traditional marriage proposal style. You can vary how you use your muscles from this position, which gives you more stamina for intercourse and it also gives you leverage to brace yourself with one hand on your knee while you shift slowly out of her way as she rises to her knees for you. You can show her what you want silently by leaning forward to brace yourself with your upward knee and placing your free hand under her belly, drawing her up with you as you both lean back. If you give her some shallow thrust while you do this maneuver, she’ll get the point that you want to stay inside her while she pushes herself into a kneeling position. The one knee position you assumed will allow you to stay balanced during the shift because you can just move your weight from one leg to the other as needed.

I’m sure that you can figure the rest of the mechanics out now to get her on her back again. Just think it through and adjust your body position accordingly to accommodate her shift.

One final word about positions and that’s about getting her on top of you. The most graceful way to do that without loosing penetration is from the missionary position. Again, these directions are for taking her toward her right. Her right leg should be straight and between your legs. Your left leg should also be stretched straight. Lay down atop her, leaning on your elbows once you’ve got your legs in position. Put your left elbow up by her head and put her arms around your neck, so they are in position to brace herself once the roll is complete. Put your right arm under her shoulders and then roll with her. And there she is. Let her set herself into position from there. She’ll get the idea that you want to stay inside her without you needing to say a word if you move in her a bit as you shift your positions around. Just do it slowly and smoothly and she’ll follow your lead.

This takes only a little practice and you’ll look masterful even when you practice if you do it slowly and thoughtfully…and she’ll feel like a queen dancing the tango with her man. Trust me on this guys. *smiles*

Oh…and I hope that you were paying attention when I pointed out the ways in which to use your leg positions for sex to ease muscle groups. If you thrust in slow controlled ways, you can control ejaculation longer and you can slowly build pleasure for her. Also don’t forget that these positions you are rolling her into provide opportunities for you to get your fingers on her clit and if you are paying attention, I’m sure you’ll notice that you can control the mood with your movements until a hedonistic thrusting is called for. You’ll know when that is…because you’ll both be panting for orgasms by then. *smiles* For women, like me who really get in to intercourse for long periods of time, this is a lovely way to please. *winks*

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