I think a huge misnomer about Tantra…or meditation for that matter…is that it takes lots of knowledge and lots of time.

That’s not really true. It is like lots of other things in life. You start out small and as the effort rewards, you feel drawn toward more. It doesn’t feel like this huge effort, it feels like more of a good thing.

Solitary Start:

Find ten quiet moments that will not be interrupted.

Do two minutes of a full body motion. Any sort. Just move for two minutes with large sweeping motions with all four limbs and get your torso involved. This gets the blood and the prana/energy of the body moving.

Find a very comfortable position that has your spine straight and your rib cage lifted off the pelvis, so you have lots of room to breathe. And then spend the next eight minutes in deep breathing. Breathe right down into your pelvis, like its a wave in and out of your body. Get your belly muscles moving with it….but don’t strain anything.

As you feel comfortable with your rhythm, on the inhalation clench the pc muscles…yanno? The ones that you use to keep from peeing when you don’t want to….they are also your orgasm muscles. Clench them on the inhalation and release completely when you exhale.

Once that is comfortable, add a rocking motion to the rhythm, so that you flex your hips on the inhalation and relax with the exhalation.

When that rhythm is comfortable you can add a visualization. Women: Imagine that from the land below you are breathing in life energy through your perineum and up your spine, down the front and up again, along with more fresh life energy. This creates a flow of fresh and flowing energy in your body. It should feel as if you are pulling up on a string that is pulling air, energy and your muscles deeply into the body and let loose when you exhale.

Men: Inhale, draw the energy down, clenching your pc muscles, rock your hips and exhale up the front of your body, relaxing the muscles as you exhale. The rhythm is very different than for women, feeling more like how a double sided saw works, a push pull sensation.

And that’s all there is to making a beginning alone.

Partners:

Give yourselves 20 minutes….more if you’d like.

Do a few minutes of solitary practice to get the energy flowing and the visualization comfortably in your mind and synchronized with your breathing. Open your eyes, and gaze into your partner’s eyes without looking away, just breathing.

Let your hearts reach out to each other as you breathe.

And that’s it. If you want to make this sexual, you can…just linger over each other’s bodies as you do this breathing.

Adding anything more in for techniques is a matter of preference, but in my opinion, this is perfect after care for kinky play. This is the perfect way to tune yourself up after a hard day so you can be available for the kids and other obligations. This is the perfect way to reconnect after a blowout. This is the way to make it through a hard time in a relationship. This is a way to heal from deep emotional wounds. This is the perfect solution to resistance of any kind.

It feels good. It is energizing. It is renewing.

Yup. If you want it to really effect you, you’ll spend more than 10-20 minutes on it, but you can get alot out of a short experience like this if you do it frequently enough so you loose all awkwardness about synchronizing the whole visualization, muscle clenching, rocking and breathing thing. Once you get that down, it settles into unconscious motion and you can let your mind float in the breath and the light and really get something out of it in a very short period of time.

Blessings!

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