I discovered the following webpage on what’s actually a tantric technique at Sensuous Sadie. This is only an exerpt. I hope you’ll click the link below to read the rest of the article. It’s very interesting if you like both Tantra and BDSM.
All my life I’ve been happily giving blow jobs to my partners, but almost all of them were fairly short in duration (10-15 minutes) and usually were used as an aspect of foreplay. In other words, our goal was to get him up and ready for something – be it an orgasm, intercourse, or a scene. If it took much longer than that, I used a variety of techniques to hurry him up, and as often as not he enjoyed that as most men are also goal oriented when it comes to their orgasms as well. It wasn’t until my former Dominant Vladimir came along that I was introduced to another whole way of looking at this. Vladimir wanted me to let go of my goal orientation and simply enjoy a long and relaxed session of oral pleasure with him; long as in 30 to 45 minutes or longer. He wanted not to be rushed, but to rather savor the sensations as long as he wished without wondering if I was bored or if my mind was wandering. He asked me if I could learn to meditate on what I was doing and relax into it. He taught me to breathe with him, and essentially sink into my own subspace where we rose and floated together for long periods. I had my doubts whether I could actually do this because I’m a Type A person if nothing else, but to my utter surprise I was not only able to do it, but I really grooved on it. I found that I became utterly relaxed and shut out the outer world for long periods. So, you could say that a spiritual blow job is a pleasure giving session that is not designed with an orgasm or scene as an immediate goal.
I have been teaching this technique for having a spiritual experience with foreplay in my blogs for about a year. Achieving a deep trance while orally pleasing your partner is very easy to do with breath techniques. I’ve shared a number of them here and posted links in past posts or outright explained a few breath practices, so check out the links in the sidebar or the labels list for Tantra posts. And by the way, this experience of deep connection, trance and pleasure can be just as beautifully applied to cunnilingus as it can with fellatio
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November 3, 2007 at 8:14 pm
It’s interesting, I have been giving blowjobs like this for years, with the pleasure on both of us because I love giving as well as receiving. I go into a trance, a rarely if ever get tired, because it is a loving gesture, not aimed at necessarily getting him off , but instead enjoying the sensations for both of us. Funny enough, it has taken me a long time to be able to let him reciprocate because in the past I always felt like I had to cum in a certain amount of time or my partner would get tired. J changed that from the start. So did my lover before him. Just relax and enjoy the sensation. lately I have been much more pleasure oriented and less orgasm driven and that changes the focus and makes it easier to cum when I am ready.
November 5, 2007 at 12:59 pm
*smiles* Its wonderful to discover we do things instinctively that are a spiritual experience isn’t it?
Nice to hear from you dear lady. *smiles*
February 7, 2009 at 3:20 am
I love spiritual blow jobs! I often have the experience that I am drinking light when I suck a man’s lingam, especially if he has that consciousness as well. The light enters through my mouth and opens up my whole head, sending me into a diffused state of expansion. Yum. . .
Selena Truth
I love them too…drinking light. That is how it feels isn’t it? *smiles* I like that. Thank you for sharing…