(Reposted and edited from Honestly Speaking circa 2007)
It is my great joy and pleasure to be teaching my Lover about Tantra. This is a joy that I thought not to have again for many years. It was only a few months before I met my Lover that I had said, ‘I am never teaching anyone about this spiritual topic again’. I am glad that my ‘never’ had no basis in ongoing reality. He sweetly pursued me about my interest in Tantra and said that he’d really like to explore that with me if I’d let him. I finally asked him to be my Tantric partner and I am deeply happy about our decision. I am experiencing great joy in this learning process….I consider it a learning process for both of us. My first partner and I grew into our practice together and so there was no need to teach. My next partners weren’t really serious about the practice, they just wanted an excuse to be erotic with me….so I grew discouraged and could not seem to get past the basics of the practice when teaching anyone.
My Partner and I rarely have time to discuss much on this topic, however. We’re usually doing rather than discussing. It is in my mind to provide Him with occasional little blurbs to think about by writing here….and I’m rather hoping that my readers here will enjoy the exercise of my Teacher’s thoughts just as much as my readers once enjoyed my writing on Tantra on my first blog.
The generalities described in the link about the basics can be implemented by anyone who wants to improve their sensual experiences. Knowing these basics and utilizing them is the place to start. You don’t need to do any further study than these to make normal sex better. However, if you want to really practice Tantra, you’ll need to learn some meditation techniques that aid with spiritual development and with learning control of the subtle energy in the body.
Learning to control the subtle energy in your body will enhance sexual arousal, deepen sexual trance which will allow transformative spiritual experiences with the Divine and each other, and it will form a union of Lovers on all levels.
One of the most basic meditations to use for learning to control the flow of subtle energy in your body is very easy to do. Breathe in…Breathe life force in whatever way you wish to visualize it. It could be visualized like light, or electricity or a color or even like smoke or water. Breathe fresh prana or life force into each chakra, releasing what you no longer need as you exhale. Breathe in fresh life force and let it circulate through out the body, releasing what you don’t need on the breath. As your body feels filled and refreshed from this visualization and breath practice, imagine next that there’s an egg all around you, your aura, and that you gradually fill this too with a loving life energy, protecting you, nourishing you and that this energy is always refreshed with each breath you take. Spend about 10 or 15 minutes a day on this practice and you will gradually learn to control the subtle energy in your body.
During tantric sex, you’ll be able to enhance your partner’s arousal by shifting energy throughout both your bodies, exciting each other more, even controlling orgasm in yourself and your partner. To do this, each partner must take a role. The traditional partnership is one female and one male each. If yours is a same sex partnership, choose one partner to fulfill each role. The female is the root. She draws energy from the earth beneath her through her root chakra or spine. She draws the energy up her body just forward of her spine and out her heart into the man’s body. She visualizes that energy flowing down just forward of his body and out his penis into her body again. Inhale up, she pulls energy from his penis and from the land, up her body toward his heart again. When the energy leaves her body, she exhales and visualizes the downward motion to his penis. The cycle of inhalations and exhalations is continuous, and builds because each time she inhales, she draws more energy from the earth to join what’s already there.
The male’s visualization is different. He pulls energy from the heavens on his inhalation, pulling it down just forward of his spine and exhaling it through his penis into her body. Exhaling, he visualizes that energy is drawn up to her heart and out. Inhaling he pulls energy from the heavens and from his heart, pulling it down to his penis and so on. Again, he builds the energy in their bodies by pulling energy from outside their circuit from the heavens.
Together the couple create a symbiosis of heaven and earth, a union of both body and life force in both its forms, projective and receptive.
This has yet another effect. Consciousness is expanded, allowing deep trance states when subtle energy is very excited and is flowing freely from meditations like this. Learning to excite and get energy flowing freely will enhance your ability to enjoy the melding of consciousness between the partners, sharing soul and emotions profoundly.
There are other facets to these basic visualizations that can enhance the effects of the practice. Please see three posts written by Pamm about how to enhance this visualization: The Three Basics, Second Level Solo Exercises, and Bringing the Energy Up.
Meditation practices like these one must be done daily if they are to be very effective during tantric sexual ritual. During practice, there’s much to distract from visualizing subtle energy flows…primary of these is the rush of pleasure from your partner’s fingers, tongue and genitals contacting yours…So train your mind to control the flows of energy on a more autonomic level, leaving your mind freer to focus on pleasuring your partner.
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